I was a sophomore in college when she looked at me and said, “I’m happy you’re here. I have experience working with women in abusive relationships,” I had to catch myself from falling out of my chair. I can’t explain why during the 9 month-long toxic and euphoric rollercoaster; the word abuse had never crossed my mind. I can only say that not knowing why it didn’t is the reason something needed to be done.
The same person that shook my world by merely stating the obvious has since become a very important person in my life. She once told me about a Chinese proverb called the Red String of Fate. According to this myth, an invisible red string connects those who are destined to meet regardless of time, place or circumstance. Maybe if I had been educated on dating violence, I never would have had to experience it. But would I have listened? Or would I have rolled my eyes and thought, “I have a backbone. I’m smart. That would never happen to me.”
By sharing my story first with a few friends, then with my peers, I realized my story didn’t stand alone. A club was formed. The stories came pouring in and I watched judgment fly out the window as a group of college students, strangers to each other just minutes before, sat face to face, opened up, laughed, and cried. It was then I realized, this isn’t about dating violence. This is about choosing change and creating good. I never thought one of the worst experiences of my life would hand over the wand to do just that. What started as a movement to “heal a heart, remove the 1” affected by relationship violence, grew into the little corner of the world you are visiting this very moment – the purplethread, where we believe in people & projects that empower & inspire, "threading good" however possible.
I do think everything has an element of fate, a touch of red string, perhaps. But just as life happens to us, we can happen to it. We just have to want to. (I don’t think it’s a coincidence that purple is the color of good judgment & peace of mind.. :) Each of our stories, just like every purplethread bracelet, is unique. It is the choice within each of us that is the same: choose to matter. Choose to #threadgood.